Always Kiss Me Good Night

The magical good night kiss. An unattainable desire of the single woman who sleeps alone and continuously seeks to be held, desired, comforted and tucked into bed at night in a way that only another warm body can fully accomplish.
But is the single woman truly the only one that fails to receive that one, simplistic act of intimacy that somehow lulls us into a cradled sleep that promises visions of sugar plums dancing in our heads? Surely married women and those in otherwise committed relationships do not ever sleep alone nor have to lie awake longing for the soft caress of their mate’s lips upon theirs. Surely women in relationships have the distinct advantage of never feeling lonely, abandoned or undesired. After all, that’s what a relationship is all about, right? NEVER being alone. NEVER longing for love. ALWAYS feeling secure. And ALWAYS waking up in the arms of the one you love - the one that ALWAYS kisses you good night.
Why do we long for that good night kiss? Is it a seal of approval of some kind that somehow suggests that our duties as half of a relatively successful partnership have been accomplished for that day and that on the next day, should we once again accomplish our mission successfully, another reward of a good night kiss will be ours to seek and accept proudly? To wear as a badge of honor? To use as a point of reference in determining our self worth at the end of each hard-lived day?
While we all need the most basic of human interactions to survive our destined existence we cannot, if we seek to find the utmost fulfillment in this life, put such inflated values on perfunctory actions such as a good night kiss.
For those that have come out of committed relationships and are now single, life has undoubtedly changed. You are now faced with going out to eat alone, going to the movies alone, spending the weekends alone and going to bed alone. So what makes you equal or better than your counterparts who are still in relationships? Your ability to be THE deciding factor in the depth of your happiness.
The saying ”You have to learn to love yourself before you can love someone else” is the ultimate commandment in living a successful and fulfilling singletary life. Your self-worth should never be dependent on the approval of another human being who may or may not be around when the going gets tough. Loving yourself means that you are so in tune with your own needs that instead of waiting endlessly for someone else to figure out what it takes to make you happy that you can literally hand them a detailed job description and then decide based on THEIR performance if they are adequate enough to handle your most prized possession – YOUR heart.
Being single has its cons but it also has it pros just as your committed counterparts can attest to. It’s as basic as making the best of what you have to work with. But when you’re working with yourself, you should always consider that as working with the best. You are the best that you could possibly offer yourself so why not take advantage of the intricate knowledge that only you have and start using it to make every day count? Only you should have the power to decide the WHATs, WHEREs, WHENs and most importantly the WHYs of your happiness.
A good night kiss? Yes, we all should get those every night. But have you not been blessed with softer and more caring lips than any other man out there? So go ahead, kiss yourself good night. ALWAYS kiss yourself good night and watch those sweet dreams come to life.