Show me a man who calls their partner Emotionally Needy and I’ll show you a man who is Emotionally Greedy.
In an effort to avoid any admission of self inadequacies some men try to blame their counterparts for any shortcomings they might have in fulfilling their partner’s emotional needs. The quickest cop-out is to simply label their partners “Emotionally Needy”.
So what exactly does the term Emotionally Needy really mean? Are we “needy” because we expect our mate to consider and cater to our emotional needs in a sincere manner? Are we “needy” if our expectation is to have our mate listen attentively when we have pressing issues that require discussion to help us through the thought process? Are we “needy” if we expect a hug or physical contact at any time other than during sex? Are we “needy” if we expect more than a grunt every 24 hours in place of real conversation? Are we “emotionally needy” if we desire a mate that will “put us to bed” instead of just lie next to us in bed?
I think the real question that needs to be addressed here is why would you even consider giving up your wants and desires simply because another human being is unable to get beyond their own selfishness to try and accommodate your simple requests for fulfillment? Have you so little faith in your ability to create your own happiness that you are willing to surrender YOUR needs to an emotionally stunted being that only cares about their own fulfillment? A being who is unwilling to devote the most minimal of time to help you achieve emotional security and stability not realizing that it would then afford you the time and ability to reciprocate and simultaneously lift the both of you up?
When someone calls you Emotionally Needy your response should be one of a firm stance on what you fundamentally believe in based on what you know your value to be as a human being who deserves respect, commitment and sincerity.
YOU are responsible for knowing yourself best so that YOU can teach another to love you the way you need to be loved.
Your emotional needs are part of your total being. Those needs deserve and require fulfillment in order for you to be whole. Do not accept anything less than you deserve because in the end YOU will be the one who pays the price for the unhappy life you’ve led. YOU are the one who decides what is acceptable in your life. YOU are the one that sets the standards. YOU are the one person you can ALWAYS depend on .
Don’t give in to the greed of another who only desires to swallow you whole. Stand up and fight until YOU have what YOU need and what YOU want.
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